Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else – you are the one who gets burned. I read that quote; it’s attributed to Buddha. Don’t know who really said it, but it is spot on.
I’m an emotional person. My family knows that all too well! Emotions are fantastic, and they can also be crippling.
I read this amazing book yesterday (yup, read the whole thing in a day) called Who Switched Off My Brain? (I know, I know!! I’ve had that question for years…).
It is an amazing book because the author, a South African specialist, explains very clearly the neurological pathways that emotions take. She shows what the neuro/bio processes are, how our thoughts directly translate into emotions and the precise physical and biochemical reactions the body experiences.
I have long believed that the biggest challenge that humanity faces is fear. She clearly delineates all toxic emotions as having their root in fear, and all healthy emotions as having their root in faith. According to the author, research shows that fear, all on its own, triggers more than 1,400 known physical and chemical responses and activates more than 30 different hormones.
She proves the difference between toxic emotions and healthy emotions, and their side-effects.I am impressed because I have always known that the mind-body connection is very real. Having a scientific explanation is very freeing.
For the less emotional – she explains the physical side effects to repressing emotions! (Not good – eventually something has to give!).
She addresses the side effects of believing one thing and living another. (Not good. Varying types of pain, including headaches).
She also addresses brain development from birth through the age of 19 or 20.
Regarding damaged emotions – those of us that deal with human hearts and their aches on a regular basis, that pray with people for healing of deep emotional wounds, know that it is possible to find healing and clarity through forgiveness, truth and understanding.This book explains the biochemical/neurological processes that take place when there is healing.
She also gives clear and helpful steps to retrain the brain. For the more emotional among us, she explains the steps that an emotion takes, from being only a seed of a thought, which can be controlled and dismissed, to the point where you let it grow to fruition and then have to deal with the consequences. Again, she explains this scientifically – that is the refreshing angle to me. We always have known that “self talk” is important, that “taking a breath” is important, etc., but why?
The author is Dr. Caroline Leaf, and the book is not on Amazon yet. The only place I was able to find is was at http://www.lifetoday.org, by calling them. It’s not on their site.
From the back of the book: “Researchers say that 87% of the illnesses that plague us today are a direct result of our thought life… what we think about affects us physically and emotionally.The average person has over 30,000 thoughts a day.”
“I said to the man who stood at the gate of the year, ‘Give me a light that I may tread safely into the unknown.’ And he replied, ‘Go into the darkness and put your hand into the hand of God. That shall be to you better than light and safer than the known way.'”
King George VI, Christmas 1939 as Hitler threatened all of Europe.