Men vs. women? Who "gets" it?

Do you believe in intuition? Do men have intuition? What is women’s intuition?

“This may be why women, admittedly a large generalization, tend to be more intuitive than men. Throughout history they have had to be far more sensitive to danger, exploitation, and power than men have had to be. So they have acquired an ability to see things that are often hidden to most men.” (Gordon McDonald)

But it’s not about men vs. women – there’s so much more to it:

What do you think?

What is Power?

So this woman calls herself a “power woman.” Claims she’s highly successful. Been married four times. Her latest marriage has lasted for 17 years because the man she’s married to submits to her absolute control. According to her brother, she’s been a control freak since they were small children. Her daughter moved out of the house at 16.

“Power woman”?

What do you think?
What is power? What is influence?


I have this to say after watching the news:
If you are stupid enough to kite surf when the hurricane is coming, after the authorities told you not to, and the wind carries you over the water… over the beach… across the street… and slams you into a building – you better cough up some cash to pay for the paramedics that had to go peel your sorry self off a wall and take you to the hospital!
Sorry to be so cranky. I’d better get more cafecito – and ban myself from the computer!!

[PS – that picture is just a random kite surfer on a nice day… not the brilliant one that got blown into a wall today.]

Here is the video.

Training on Lake Nottely

God is wonderful in how he balances our training! Books and seminars are great…
Real flesh and blood humans that have survived overwhelming odds as leaders are even better!

We were not able to attend the second day of the Leadership Summit, as we had long ago scheduled a visit to friends in Georgia. A Ukrainian pastor and his family were also visiting… we spent rich time with them as our children splashed and explored on the lake.

Nic was a pastor of the underground church in the former Soviet Union. He has since founded several churches, including some in the States. He is replete with the Holy Spirit and immense joy. He has known immense suffering. He unfolded more of God’s character for us as he told us about his experiences walking with Jesus.

Stories of persecution under the KGB were not new to us – Peter in fact spent some time at a mission station in Finland, where our teams helped prepare packages of Bibles to smuggle into the Soviet Union.

Yet how intensely in the “now” we sensed the presence of the Lord as we soaked in His ways… sitting on a boat in a lake in Georgia (the very day another Georgia – across the globe – is engulfed in conflict), our children fellowshipping over muddy, glittery rocks!

He told us of miracle after miracle of healing and deliverance. Of having to ask God specifically at what hour to meet and where, so as to avoid arrest. Experiences of believers at diverse starting points, walking miles in the woods and asking God where to go, unexpectedly meeting up with other groups in the same remote area of the forest – miraculously brought together by the guidance of the Holy Spirit. And more.

Stories new generations of believers need to know about. God has not changed.
Nic and Svetlana are simple humans, as are we all. And as humans, they reminded me that being massively overwhelmingly in love with God, and diving headfirst into His work, regardless of opposition, are the truly indispensable qualities of great leaders.

The Greatest Lie Ever Told

Another leader I admire is Wendy Kopp, who was interviewed at the Summit. She founded Teach for America when she was 21 years old. She is proof positive of what I call The Greatest Lie Ever Told.

What is this Lie? It’s a two-fold deception:

First part – that young people are supposed to party hardy and be self-absorbed. This presupposes that they are children with grown-up bodies who can’t think beyond next weekend.
Second part – that if you challenge them to serve a purpose greater than themselves, an urgent cause which requires self-sacrifice, they won’t rise to the occasion.

I strongly disagree with the entire premise. History is replete with examples of young people discovering courage and possibilities they did not know lay dormant within them, often leading people much older than themselves, and rising to greatness.

Here is a brief excerpt from the history of Teach for America:

As a 21 year-old, Kopp raised $2.5 million of start-up funding, hired a skeleton staff, and launched a grass-roots recruitment campaign. During Teach For America’s first year in 1990, 500 men and women began teaching in six low-income communities across the country. Since then, Teach For America’s network has grown to 20,000 individuals.

Think About It!

Fierce Competition

The Olympics are nothing compared to what goes on in our family. Peter just finished a fierce foosball tournament with Ben, Faith, and Adam (10, 8, 6; Adam isn’t ours, btw). Team BenFaith beat Team PeterAdam. Their reward? “To watch you and Daddy play ping pong against each other!”

Our ping pong spectacular was supposed to be two out of three. Being the truly stinky player that I am, and a sore loser, after I lost the first two I begged for it to be three out of five. Peter graciously gave me some tips. After resisting, I finally listened to him. I got a little better. In the end he did win, but it was three games to two.

Then it was on to foosball. Control vs. Chaos! Our styles couldn’t be any more different! He carefully handled the ball, even getting his little guys to pass laterally. My poor guys kept on ending up upside down, or whirling frantically and committing own goals. It was maddening. Again he patiently schooled me. That was maddening too. The kids kept offering to help me. (?!) Eventually I (while still arguing) started doing what he said. I got a bit better. He still won.

We are so similar in values and intensity, so absolutely opposite in style!! But it is a match made in heaven. He’s the hyper to my active. He’s the spontaneous to my combustion. He’s the aloe vera to my sunburn. He’s the counterpoint to my point. He’s the “let grace work” to my “but I gotta fix it!”

Rematch is tonight.

Hopeless Scary Hard

Certain people float my boat… I listened to a couple of them at the Leadership Summit.
Gary Haugen, founder of the International Justice Mission, is one such individual. The IJM deals with horrible issues of modern day slavery around the globe. He spoke of how we can feel overwhelmed by the enormity of the problems that afflict our world. He said, and I with imperfection repeat, (all credit to him):

· Hopeless – when you feel hopeless, re-center the basis of your hope. It is God Who is responsible for outcomes. Our job – give him all we are.
· Scary – the tasks He assigns us can be genuinely scary. But Jesus did not come to make us safe, He came to make us brave. We lead by reminding the people around us of this. We are to be liberated from the mediocrity of safe bets.
· Hard – effective leadership presses on no matter how hard the assignment. And He went into detail on choices leaders must make: choose not to be safe, choose to seek deep spiritual health, choose to seek excellence, and choose to seize joy.

His book is called Just Courage.